Whether your student lives on campus or at home with you, it is time to start talking about summer. You might expect this summer to be the same as previous summers but your student (and even you) have experienced enough life-change to warrant a conversation.
Although most students look forward to a time without reading, papers, and exams, they can also be anxious about leaving friends, seeing old friends, finding a job, and spending more time at home. Additionally, you may have some things that you hope to be different this summer. Here are a handful of topics which you may want to discuss with your student to ensure that your family is on the same page.
If you student lived on campus, they may or may not plan on moving home for summer. Many students seek out work on campus or at summer camps which will provide housing. On the other hand, your student may be looking forward to coming home for a relaxing break. Whether you want them to live at home for the summer or you just finished turning their bedroom into an office, you should take a few minutes to clarify your expectations.
If your student lived on campus, he or she has adjusted to a different set of “house rules” by now and may expect things to stay that way over summer. If you plan to have a curfew for the summer, it would be a good idea to let your student know—even if the rule will be the same as it was last summer. Additionally, you student will not be used to being expected for meals. Tell your student whether he or she will be expected to be home for meals or to let you know if he or she will be home or not.
As final exams approach and students spend long hours reading and studying, they are also daydreaming about what they will do with all their extra time once classes are over. Whether your student plans to help out at home, hang out with friends, or get a job, now is the time for you to let him or her know what you will be needing. Talk to your student about your family needs rather than after he or she has planned the month long cross-country road-trip.
Taking Time for Yourself
Sending your student to college is a family commitment. When school is in session, the rest of the family works harder to run the household. Therefore, when school is not in session, the whole family should reap the benefits. Do not be afraid to trust your student with some family responsibilities so that you can make time for those things which you have been doing without. Whether you want to start an exercise routine, do some reading, take a class, or just sit back with your feet up, be sure to let your student know your plans and how he or she can help.
Thank you for letting us work with your student this year. We look forward to having them back in the classroom this fall!